Welcome to Day 21 of #LoveBlog! I can’t believe we’re already 3 weeks through the challenge. Today’s prompt is Physical Touch. Find all the other prompts here! It’s not too late to link-up for yesterday’s topic, Self-care.
Today is the last post on The 5 Love Languages! I have so loved learning more about how love languages work with different people. I hope my non-blogging readers have enjoyed this as much as I have! If you’ve missed the previous blog link-ups on love languages, you can find them all below.
I feel like Physical Touch is easily misunderstood as a love language, especially if it’s the primary love language for a man. Har har, men just want sex, amirite?!
While sexual intimacy is certainly important within most romantic relationships, Physical Touch as a love language is a lot more than sex.
Dan’s primary love language is Physical Touch, but that’s not just true for our relationship. Dan is a very cuddly person. He happily hugs his good friends and family on a regular basis. If we’re hanging out in the kitchen at his parents’ house, he’ll walk around and give everyone a quick shoulder rub.
Physical Touch is my secondary love language, but only for our relationship. I am a cuddly person and a hugger, but I don’t need physical affection from my friends. Rachel is not a hugger, for example, and I still feel loved by her even though we limit our hugs to big hellos and good-byes. With friends and family, Quality Time is my secondary love language. (Words of Affirmation is always my primary, so please leave me blog comments telling me how much you love me!)
But with Dan? I want to snuggle that cutie pie 24/7. I could spend the entire day with him playing with my hair. In fact, if we were to create sub-categories of love languages, my primary would be Playing with My Hair. Dan’s primary would be Scratching His Back.
I’m a little like my mom that way. She always loved having me play with her hair or give her a little head scratch. I’m not sure if she ever took the actual quiz, but I always thought that Physical Touch was her primary love language. When she was bedridden during hospice care, I’m so grateful that I was small enough to climb into her hospital bed and cuddle her. I had to be careful around the wound on her head, but I tried to still give her little head scratches to let her know how much I loved her.
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How important is Physical Touch in your relationships?
I’ve always been hesitant to say to someone “Physical touch is my primary love language!” because I’m afraid they may think I mean sex; we didn’t even have sex til we were married! And it’s in my top three when just about non-romantic relationships. Cuddles and hugs are so important to me. I’m glad you were able to cuddle your mom when she was sick! I don’t think my mom would let me, and she’s often sick, so that hurts me sometimes but I try to not let it.
Cuddles and hugs are the best!
I’ve never been much for physical touch. When Pearson and I were dating, of course, I loved it. But my family is just not that outwardly affectionate in that way. Growing up, I always felt awkward with hugs and things like that. I think I’ve grown to like physical touch more these days. I’m learning the importance and power it has for most people, myself included. In a way, I wish I was exposed to it more growing up. Anyway, that’s neither here nor there I suppose. lol Just speaking what’s on my mind. 🙂
I like that you share what’s on your mind! And I appreciated your willingness to hug me last night, although I totally would have accepted a fist bump. 😉 I’m obviously a hugger, but I’ve always found it really important to respect other people’s physical boundaries.
This is so important 🙂 physical touch is Brian’s first love language too. I am always reminding myself that a hug goes a long way with him 🙂
Hugs do go a long way!
My husband is big on back scratches too… and if you play with my hair I will pretty much agree to anything 😉